Walking Hand-in-Hand Without Seeing Eye-to-Eye
Reconciliation means reestablishing the relationship. Resolution means resolving every issue. That second one isn’t going to happen because there is nobody on this planet who agrees with you about everything. The fact is we’re all different. We have different personalities. Have you noticed this?
Can you have a loving relationship without agreeing on everything? Of course you can. If you learn to disagree without being disagreeable, that’s called wisdom. If you learn that you can have unity without uniformity, that’s called wisdom. If you learn to walk hand in hand without having to see eye to eye, that’s called wisdom.
You don’t have to agree on every issue to come to reconciliation. (By the way, if you focus on the relationship and not the issues you’re going to find that some of the issues you’re arguing over are just not that important).
We live in a world that is filled with conflict – it’s everywhere. A world where there are disagreements, where there’s anger, where there’s conflict, where there’s prejudice, racial prejudice, where there’s envy, where there are groups, there’s division, there’s politics and partisanship. Where everything in the world tends to divide, I challenge you, to become an agent of reconciliation. One of the greatest things you can do with your life is be a bridge builder. You are most like Jesus Christ when you are reconciling people. You are most like Jesus when you’re building bridges, not walls. That’s exactly what Jesus came to do. He’s the great reconciler. God sent Jesus to earth to reconcile us because we are in conflict with God.
It’s always more rewarding to resolve the conflict than to dissolve the relationship.
It’s not easier but it’s more rewarding. There are people in your life you want to just wash your hands and walk away and say “forget it. It’s not worth it.” Yeah, you can do that. But you don’t get any rewards in heaven for that. You don’t get any joy on earth for that. You don’t get any character growth and development for that. It’s not rewarding for that. It’s always more rewarding to resolve a conflict than to dissolve a relationship.
The truth is: You can’t make peace with other people until you make peace with God. And maybe that’s part of the problem. You’re not at peace with yourself because you’re not at peace with God. First you’ve got to make peace with God. Then you get the peace of God. Then you have peace on earth, good will toward men.
1 Timothy 2:5, “There is only one God and one Mediator [that’s the reconciler] who can reconcile God and humanity—the man Christ Jesus.”
That’s the starting point.