How Do I Respond When Life is Unfair (Part 1)
Life is not fair. Tragedies happen that are out of our control. You will experience problems, difficulties, and hurts. So, how should you respond when you’re dealt a hand you didn’t deserve? Here are 3 ways:
1. I ACCEPT that life is unfair.
We just need to accept it; it is a fact of life.
Every time we turn on the TV to see another mass shooting or unspeakable tragedy people say, “I can’t believe this happens so often.” To tell you the truth, tragedies like this grieve me, but I am never surprised. And, I won’t be surprised when it happens again. You see, Jesus told us life would be hard.
John 16:33 (Jesus) Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows.
Jesus was realistic about life. In the world you're going to have trouble. The fact is, even if we spent every single waking moment of your life crusading against injustice and correcting wrongs in our society, we're not going to save society. You can ban all the weapons. You can wipe out ISIS and all the terrorists. You may secure peace for a while. Some thought we’d conquered all evil when we wiped out the Nazis. But the issue is deeper than any ideology or political system.
The problem is human nature. Basically we're selfish. We think of ourselves before we think of other people. We have the freedom to choose right and wrong and a lot of times a lot of people including me choose wrong, intentionally, and so do you. Life is unfair. And it will always be unfair until Jesus comes again.
If we don't get God's perspective on this we're going to go through life cynical and bitter and resentful and disillusioned, and afraid saying "Why is this happening to me? Why is this happening to my family? Why is this happening to my friends and community?" Although we cannot control the circumstances in our life, we can control our reaction to them. That's what God is watching: how we respond to the injustices and oppressions and evils of life, how we respond when life is unfair.
2. I Do the RIGHT THING anyway.
Isaiah 1:17 Learn to do good. Seek justice. Help the oppressed. Defend the cause of orphans. Fight for the rights of widows.
Even when the world is unfair, we maintain our own integrity. We don’t say, “life is unfair, so I give up on doing the right thing.”
No! We stand up against evil. We speak against it. We do the right thing anyway. We do what we can to gain justice for others. We should do what we can, while we can.
Proverbs 29:7 The godly care about the rights of the poor;
What do you do?
Romans 12:17-19 Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. 18Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. 19Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the Lord.
Don't become resentful, don't retaliate, don't take matters into our own hands, let God judge them – and He can do a better job than we can. Do the right thing anyway.
There is a trap. We can look at the world and see people doing the wrong things and we say, "Everybody's doing it! Therefore it must be OK." Wrong. Don't follow the crowd in doing wrong.
We do the right thing even when other people are doing the wrong thing. We need to remember that each of us one day will stand before God and give an account of our lives. At that point it won't matter anything if we say, "He did it! Everybody did it!" God will say, "What about you?"